I read this today: “A Fan Letter to Certain Conservative Politicians“, written by John Scalzi. John warns that the letter will be triggery and does an excellent job of moderating the comments, realizing that such a topic is likely to lead to very upsetting comments.
John’s “letter” is told from the fictional point of view of a rapist, thanking that particular new breed of politician who seem to be bending over backward to take away the rights of women. He focuses on how rape is a crime of power and control, and how the policies of these politicians are actually giving the rapists more control over their victims. It’s obviously a satire, but it’s spot on.
The new post I’m working on right now is about just this…the powerlessness and loss of control we feel as survivors. It is so upsetting to me to have to fight these battles with not only the politicians, but with my conservative friends. Just this morning, I posted something to Facebook about how the current Republican candidate and his team are taking women backward. I stated that I could not understand how women are voting for these people. One of my friends commented back that I was being “brainwashed” by the liberal media. I explained to her…a woman who supports these policies…that I am an informed voter. I never ever trust the ads and blogs that I read without going directly to the source…videos of these people actually speaking these words out loud. I always assume that the news/ad/blog has somehow exaggerated their claims and that no one could possibly have said these words without somehow being taken out of context. However, more and more often this year, I am finding that these politicians are indeed speaking these words and defending them vehemently. It saddens me more than I can say.
I think I’ll send her this letter. I doubt I’ll change her mind.
What do you say to your friends who support people who support these policies? I know my readers come from all kinds of backgrounds, and some may be conservatives. But most of you are survivors or friends of survivors. What can I tell my friend that may help her see the light? What she is actually doing to herself and her daughters when she casts that vote a week from Tuesday? I fear I may actually have to “come out of the closet” so to speak, as a survivor, and tell my story so that people will understand why this upsets me so.