11 Aug 2014
in rape, sexual assault
Tags: Chicago, rape, rape survivors, support, The Monument Quilt
Summer, as always, is rushing by and the back-to-school feeling is calling to me. I am trying hard to resist it, but it’s getting stronger! I am hoping to get in one last hurrah before the school bell rings.
The Monument Quilt
This popped up on my Facebook feed the other day, and it’s been gnawing at me. Things that gnaw at me like this usually force me into action. My brain is very annoying that way. More on this in a minute.
The Monument Quilt is a project that allows rape survivors to share their stories on quilt squares to be displayed outdoors for people to read. The quilt is touring More
10 Mar 2014
in PTSD, rape, recovery
Tags: anxiety, emotions, health, panic attacks, PTSD, rape, support, vulnerability, weight loss
It was a stunning day today. Spring finally looked as if it might someday appear. It was 54 degrees today! 54!!!! That is a number that was unfathomable just a week ago. The sun was shining. The children at school were able to actually go outside for recess and run amok for a few glorious minutes. I was able to venture into the great outdoors without gloves for the first time in months. I had a good day at work and was ready for a nice calming evening.
I was not ready for another sneak attack of PTSD, right at the end of the work day. More
21 Feb 2014
in rape, Writing
Tags: blogging, rape survivors, support, writing
Writing terrifies me. I have always felt the need and desire to write. I have always kept little scraps of thoughts and sentences tucked away in corners of my closet, hidden from view. Words fill my days and nights. They dance off the page when I read and literally make me smile and laugh out loud. The perfectly crafted sentence I see in a piece of literature fills me with awe and drives my need to write. I cannot not write.
But for years, More
18 Feb 2014
in PTSD, rape, recovery
Tags: anxiety, panic attacks, PTSD, rape, rape survivors, Robot Hugs, sometimesmagical, support
In the wake of Sunday’s piano debacle, I did a lot of internet searching Monday about PTSD, anxiety, and panic attacks. It took all day for me to shake the effects of the morning. This is such a common problem, not just among rape survivors, but for people in general. More
10 Feb 2014
in Inspiration, rape, recovery
Tags: date rape, domestic violence, rape, rape survivors, support, violence against women
It’s been a good day. It started with a great observation from my principal, which has had me stressed all weekend. It moved on to some great collaborative work with a colleague of which I’m very proud. Dinner out with Mr. OneWoman–always delicious! Ending with a late evening workout and curling up on the couch to watch TV, exhausted, but in a good way. Very satisfying all around. More
24 Dec 2013
in Christmas, rape
Tags: Christmas, family, holidays, rape, rape survivors, sexual assault, support, violence against women
It’s Christmas Eve and many of us are in a flurry of activity, trying to finish all of the last-minute things that need to be done to create that perfect Christmas morning.
The tree is trimmed, cookies are baking, turkeys are thawing. We’re still wrapping those last few gifts. The past weeks have been a blur of Christmas card writing and shopping. It’s a wonderful time of year, but stress levels are very high. We tear out our hair when things go wrong…and they always do. Gifts don’t arrive on time. Flights get postponed. Family gets snowed in. You run out of tape. The turkey burns. In my own home, the Christmas cards just got mailed yesterday. We decorated the tree this morning. There was a great deal of bickering between me and my husband. And I just finished wrapping the last gift at 9:45 PM. Hardly a perfect Normal Rockwell Christmas. More
13 Nov 2013
in Music, rape
Tags: Contemporary Christian music, date rape, God, Matthew West, NaBloPoMo, rape, rape survivors, sexual assault, shame, support
© 2010 Matthew West, Sparrow Records
I’m just back from Wednesday night choir practice at the church, so I thought a song might be appropriate tonight. You know how I love the songs! This is another song from Matthew West, a great Contemporary Christian singer. What I love about his songs is that even non-Christians can find meaning and comfort in them. This one, “The Healing Has Begun,” has a very uplifting message. More
05 Nov 2013
in rape, sexual assault
Tags: blogging, NaBloPoMo, rape, rape survivors, sexual abuse, sexual assault, support
(Please forgive the short post today…I’m still pretty sick.)
If there is one thing I have learned since I started writing this blog, it is this. Everyone has something that they are battling, we just don’t know what it is. Think about the people you know. How many of them are grieving the loss of a loved one? How many have been abused? How many have an illness that just doesn’t show itself? How many suffer from mental illness of some kind? How many have children who are taking the wrong path? People hide their pain, even from those that they are closest to.
The survivors I have spoken with are all battling huge demons–PTSD, Dissociative Identity Disorder, eating disorders, substance abuse. Some are scared just to be in their homes. Some are scared to leave their homes. Some have to see their rapists every day because they are family members.
Others are like me and seem pretty together on the outside. But the demons are still there, and they do require some fighting.
Be kind. Always. Excellent advice.