You Don’t Have to Try

This has been floating around Facebook, so many of you have probably already seen it.  But it is definitely worth viewing.

As women, we are continually given messages–both spoken and tacit–that we need to be better.  More beautiful.  Thinner.  Perfect.  Our hair should shine, our smiles should be bright, our makeup flawless.  All while we have 2.5 perfect children, get a master’s degree, and run our own business.

Yep, no problem.  I can do that!

I know amazing, talented, bright women who refuse to leave the house unless they are made up perfectly, their hair done, and dressed for success.  This is to go to the grocery store.

I called my mother recently to see More

Be Amazing…

You know you want to 🙂

rules for being amazing

I Try My Hand at Polling…

Kind of a lazy-woman’s weekday post today, I’m afraid!

I am currently trying to learn more about the WordPress platform and all the “bells and whistles” of my blog.  I thought I would try adding some polls to my blog.  It might be an interesting way to see what experience my readers have with rape and sexual assault.  If you can think of some good questions for future polls, let me know in the comments.

Owning Our Stories

Owning Our Story

This was a Facebook find today.  I think it’s an amazing statement.  We all have a story.  And many parts of that story are very, very bad for survivors of rape and abuse.  But it’s us.  It is part of who we are.  Too often we push that part of our story down and silence it because it is so very painful.  Bringing it forward and owning that part of ourselves takes great bravery and courage.  And with it comes power.  Power over our rapists.  Power over our past.  Power to change our futures.  There is a lot of wisdom packed into this one short sentence.

Please Don’t Tell Us to Get Over It


Since I began this journey of writing and sharing my story, I have met many wonderful survivors online.  They are a huge support network for me and I am grateful for every one of them.  The other day, one posted that people she cared about kept telling her that she just “needed to get over it”.  Many of the other survivors spoke up and said that they, too, had received this kind of comment.

I am not sure what people are thinking when they make this kind of statement to a victim of rape and trauma.  They may truly be coming from a place of caring, and simply are expressing their desire to see you feeling better.  But more likely, it comes from a complete lack of understanding of how this event can penetrate you to the core.  It goes down deep in your soul.  It’s not a physical injury that can heal in a matter of weeks or months. More

“I am tired of the silence”

I borrowed this video from my friends over at Opt4.  It shows how men rarely have to even think about the possibility of being raped.  Some of them even laughed when asked what they did to protect themselves from rape, or seemed baffled by the question.  But the women all had numerous strategies and often elaborate plans for how to avoid rape.  This shouldn’t be.  Watch it all through to see the appalling stats about rape worldwide.  One in six US women will be raped in their lives (about 17%).  But 6 out of 10 women globally will experience sexual violence.  That’s 60% folks.  Unbelievable.  And 97% of rapists will never spend a day in jail.  Let that number really sink in.


I agree…I am tired of the silence.  Are you?

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