The Journey of a New Year
01 Jan 2016 2 Comments
in Blogging, New Year, Rape survivors Tags: blogging, New Year, rape, rape survivors, writing
The Hunting Ground
22 Nov 2015 Leave a comment
in rape, Uncategorized Tags: Campus rape, rape culture, rape survivors, sexual assault, The Hunting Ground
CNN is airing the documentary, “The Hunting Ground” tonight at 8:00. It’s about sexual assault on college campuses. I am about to watch it. I’ll let you know my thoughts afterward.
Nightmares
12 Sep 2015 3 Comments
in PTSD Tags: anxiety, Nightmares, PTSD, rape, rape survivors
I can’t say that I ever remember having an actual nightmare about my rape. Terrible thoughts at night while in bed, definitely. Nightmares involving my rapist, certainly. But not the rape itself. For this I am extremely grateful. I know several fellow survivors for whom this is a chronic symptom. I suppose I am lucky.
This year, I even managed to escape the “first day of school” nightmares. Ask any teacher, and you will find that this is a yearly occurrence. Panicked dreams where you open the classroom to find More
Who Knew?
30 May 2015 2 Comments
in rape, recovery Tags: Facebook, Forgiveness, healing, rape, rape survivors, recovery, sexual assault
It turns out that I am a better human being than I may have thought. Here is a revelation that I found out this past week:
I do not actually wish my rapist dead.
Good to know! Yay, me! More
People You May Know
02 May 2015 2 Comments
in Poetry, rape, Uncategorized Tags: Facebook, rape, rape of men, rape survivors
What do you do when your rapist shows up on your Facebook feed? Thankfully, mine is not on Facebook. But his friends are. His coworkers. A mutual friend once told me, “Mark says hi! He asks how you are doing?” That was one of the most triggering things anyone has ever said to me. It reminded me that he was still out there, living his life, going to work, chatting with friends. People were his friends. People who didn’t know what he was.
This video is is very powerful. Watch with care. The poet’s bravery shines through.
The accompanying article tells his story.
Survival Looks Good on You
14 Sep 2014 3 Comments
in rape, Rape survivors Tags: healing, quotes, rape, rape survivors, sexual assault
I saw this on Facebook this morning and I really liked it. Let us all hope that one day we can wear our survival gracefully. Thank you all for surviving and standing with me as I try. I am standing with all of you. Have a great week everyone!
A Roller Coaster of Emotions
18 Aug 2014 4 Comments
in rape, sexual assault Tags: Chicago, date rape, emotions, family, Monument Quilt, rape, rape survivors, recovery, sexual assault
Happiness, terror, sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach, relief, a bit of nausea…that sums up my weekend. Coupled by quite a bit of excitement and disappointment.
No, I did not ride the newest coaster at Cedar Point (although I would really love to do that!) I got together all of my courage and I told my mother about my rape. After 32 years. More